I think the hardest part of moderating a message board...
...is telling your friends how they can't act, even if how they're acting doesn't really bother you. I hate modifying posts, I really hate deleting them, and I hate banning people most of all. Who am I to judge them? I know this is probably an extremely trivial thing in the scheme of the ten billion message boards that exist all over the Internet, especially since the one I help run is such a little known one... but I still hate it. I guess it's just because of my experience knowing what causes problems and what is most frowned upon in terms of Netiquette, but I wish there was someone else to do it for me.
I don't care if people hate me for doing my job faithfully, but I do care if it hurts them deeply that I have this "authority" over them... as if I deserve it more than someone else. However... it is true that if I don't stop these people from upsetting others, no one else will. If the choice is between hurting one person's feelings, or having that person hurt ten people's feelings, I'll do what I have to... there's not a choice involved there.
I just wish there was a way of never hurting anyone.