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...is telling your friends how they can't act, even if how they're acting doesn't really bother you.  I hate modifying posts, I really hate deleting them, and I hate banning people most of all.  Who am I to judge them?  I know this is probably an extremely trivial thing in the scheme of the ten billion message boards that exist all over the Internet, especially since the one I help run is such a little known one... but I still hate it.  I guess it's just because of my experience knowing what causes problems and what is most frowned upon in terms of Netiquette, but I wish there was someone else to do it for me.

I don't care if people hate me for doing my job faithfully, but I do care if it hurts them deeply that I have this "authority" over them... as if I deserve it more than someone else.  However... it is true that if I don't stop these people from upsetting others, no one else will.  If the choice is between hurting one person's feelings, or having that person hurt ten people's feelings, I'll do what I have to... there's not a choice involved there.

I just wish there was a way of never hurting anyone.

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dynastessa
Jan. 15th, 2002 08:00 pm (UTC)
I wish there was a way of not hurting anyone too. Seems like people either hurt someone else, or they become hurt themselves. Hurt is so awful, isn't it? T_T
tidus
Jan. 15th, 2002 09:04 pm (UTC)
Yesh...
...yesh yesh yesh.  Ah well, such is life... just try to do as much good as you can, and hopefully it will all cycle around and create some good in the person's life at whatever point in the future that it returns.  It's not always consoling, but it's the best we can do.  Thanks Zelly... :)
dynastessa
Jan. 16th, 2002 11:09 am (UTC)
Re: Yesh...
hehe! I hope that I made you feel better, cuz that's what friends are for right?
^^
tidus
Jan. 16th, 2002 09:52 pm (UTC)
Re: Yesh...
Your ever-cheery attitude gives you a knack for making people feel better, actually... and that definitely includes me.  Thank you... *smiles big as he hugs you*
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tidus
Jan. 16th, 2002 09:57 pm (UTC)
Re: Welcome to the realm of BBS moderatordom. =P
Funny you should mention that... the next line is what I specifically remember thinking the first time I went through this.

"Now I know how Kouryuu felt."

Thanks for responding... it makes me feel a whole lot better when I know someone who completely understands is not only listening, but also willing to let me know.  :)
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tidus
Jan. 16th, 2002 10:00 pm (UTC)
Re: I know how ye feel~
I used to run a club in high school, and back then my friends were like ten times less mature then they are now.  They got so bad that I almost gave up the club because almost everyone there was a friend of mine that knew they could get away with being totally disrespectful to everyone.  I sure as hell am glad those days are over.  *sighs deeply*  Thanks for thinking of me, Kat... and hopefully I'll talk to you on the phone again soon.  :)
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tidus
Jan. 24th, 2002 09:33 pm (UTC)
Re: ^^
You finally sent me one today... I was so happy!  *beams*  Heheh... :)
zell_dincht
Jan. 16th, 2002 05:43 pm (UTC)
It's like this...
Sometimes, we try to find a way not to hurt anyone and what ends up happening is we unintentionally hurt them. I've done that several times to numerous people and I always "have" to apologize, no matter how big or small the effect may have been.

We always tell ourselves that we won't be judgemental on others when the truth of the matter is... we are... and always will be. That's just human nature. At least I think it is.

I don't think there is a true way of not hurting anyone. We all tend to do it, no matter what the circumstances are. I guess we're all prone to hurting people, and getting hurt.
tidus
Jan. 16th, 2002 10:04 pm (UTC)
Re: It's like this...
Spoken like a true realist.  It's nice to know that there are people out there who have an exceptionally strong grasp on human nature, and society in general as well.  Thanks, bro... it's nice to know you're there to keep people's feet on the ground... and cheer 'em up in the meanwhile.  :)
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